Who Cares If You Deserve It?

In this edition of the good journal, I'm gonna challenge a particular notion that matters a lot to you for some reason.

A notion that a lot of us hold onto for our dear lives for as tight as we can.

This commonly held notion is...

In life you need to deserve something to get it. That you shouldn't get it if you don't deserve it or more importantly you shouldn't get it if you don't deserve it.

The reason I'm going to challenge this notion is because it's fundamentally a lie.

So many of us have seen people...

Get awards that they didn't deserve.

Be with partners that they didn't deserve.

Get fame that they didn't deserve.

and many other things that I'm sure you can recall.

Even you yourself may have gotten somethings that you didn't deserve.

For example, take into consideration the circumstances of your birth.

If you were born in a first world country in times of peace, it's not exactly because you did good things.

And if you were born in a third world country in times of war, it's not exactly because you deserve it either.

After all, what could you even do before you were born to be deserving of such fates.

Don't get me wrong, I don't have any qualms with people deserving things and then getting them.

I have a problem with people feeling guilty and not going after what they want because they feel like they are undeserving of what they want.

You see, when you yourself think that you are undeserving of what you want then you come in your own way and stop yourself from getting it.

It's self sabotage driven by guilt.

So by all means, make yourself capable and deserving of the good things and the finer things in life. Don't stop improving yourself.

But don't stop yourself from getting things in life when you feel like you don't deserve them because those feelings may be driven by stupidity, lacking a sense of self, low self esteem or even truth.

Because in all honesty, it does not matter whether you deserve it or not.

When we look at people that get something even if they don't deserve it, we may feel jealous, envy, even a tint of anger. But that doesn't change the nature of things and it definitely doesn't make a dent in that persons life.

The same goes for you, if at some point you get something even if you didn't deserve it. Others may attempt to insinuate or may try to imply that you didn't deserve it. Though that doesn't make any difference to either of you.

They can wallow in envy and anger but that doesn't change anything for you, it only makes them more miserable.

So who cares if you deserve it?

You can not deserve something and still get it.

Alright that's it for today.

See ya next time.