This is Human Nature 101.

In this edition of the journal, I'm going to talk about one of the most fundamental law of human nature.

But before we get into that, first I want you to ponder on this question?

What kind of a person do you really like talking to?

Is it someone that talks about himself?

Is it someone that doesn't in the slightest care about you or is interested in hearing, especially anything about you?

Someone that constantly boasts and brags about how great he is?

Someone that complains and whines about how difficult his life is?

In case you didn't clue in, these are exactly the traits of a socially inept person.

See, people naturally care about themselves. They don't want to hear your sob stories and your brags, especially when they don't care that much about you.

One of the best ways to make people care about you is to genuinely care about them. It makes us want to reciprocate that affection and care.

To quote Benjamin Disraeli,

"Talk to a man about himself and he will listen for hours"

I mean this man wasn't the best looking person, so he had to figure out something right?

And it's because he understood this that he was brilliant in social settings, you could even say that it was one of the reasons he became the prime minister.

Which is quite remarkable for a dark skinned jewish man in the Victorian England.

People care about themselves more than they care about you. That’s just a fundamental law of human nature. It's true for anyone and everyone, including you and me.

All great seducers are outer directed. They are not thinking about themselves when they are interacting with people.

They are completely fascinated by the other person. Let your childlike curiosity take over and immerse yourself in their world.

Who are they?

Why do they do what they do?

Use those mirror neurons that you possess, they exist mainly to make you a social animal. And we are social animals, we also forget about that sometimes. If you don't use them, they atrophy.

It's what Robert Greene would call "Entering their spirit".

Conversely, all anti-seducers are inner directed. You flip this advice to make a perfectly anti social being.

In fact, I'm sure we can all recall instances or people in our life that just won't stop talking about themselves. We get frustrated, we think it's irritating that they only talk about their stuff, we hope that at some point they would clue in and read the signals.

That we don't wanna hear about how awful it was to wait 10 extra minutes in a coffee shop line.

We don't wanna hear about how everyone driving is on a mission to kill them, how everyone is against them.

That after a certain point we've heard enough about them, and if they don't shut their complaining or bragging, we'll naturally want to walk away.

And if you are a sane normal human being that is exactly what you would do. Who has time for this shit?

A good interaction is an exchange of conversations, its not domination from one side.

If you allow yourself to immerse yourself in someone else's world, you'll find that it really is quite fun once you start doing it.

So rid yourself of the need to think that the first thing that you should talk about is yourself.

So go out there and have some fun.

You'll go much further with talking to people about themselves than to talk to people about you.

Alright that's it for today.

Bye.