These 3 are the ONLY C's You Need to Care About...

In this edition of the series...

I'm going to talk about the 3 C Triad that I came up with that will change the way you fundamentally view life.

It is so important to know about this because if you don't, these 3 C's will control your life and you will call it fate. So I'd rather you control these instead.

Before I even begin...

Let me just say that if you focus on levelling up in even one of these C's, you will notice a dramatic change in your life.

And the best part is that they're all interconnected.

I guarantee you it will change your life if you focused on all 3.

So what is this 3 C Triad that I came up with...

It's the Competence - Confidence - Charisma Triad

Competence

Look, without competence, no one will ever take you seriously in anything. You'll just be a laughing stock or a dancing monkey.

Yes, everyone will be entertained by you but no one will think highly of you or have any sort of respect for you.

So start developing competence in at least one domain of your life. Although I would recommend more than just one because that's what I do.

How do you do it?

It's simple...

Put the reps in and analyse your reps and improve.

It's the Reps - Feedback Loop

In short, it's impossible to shoot a 1000 shots on goal in football and not score a goal if you're improving with feedback that you receive from the reps that you put in.

So let this example be proof that even if you are dumb as a rock, you can develop competence through sheer volume of reps.

Confidence

Once you develop competence, you start being more confident. True confidence comes from the results that you see.

Your confidence comes from the man/woman you are, it's proportional to the value that you possess.

Now, if you are not someone that possesses immense value right now then that's fine as well.

What you can do is what I call

"Borrowing abundance/successes from your future self"

The way this works is that you still think of yourself as valuable, but in potential.

So you don't have to lie to yourself, your confidence is grounded in reality.

The problem with having high confidence and high self-esteem is that a lot of people with low confidence and low self-esteem will challenge you, harass you, poke at you.

And that's fine, let them. This is the burden you have to bear. Think of this as a gift to become stronger. Think of this as a challenge to test your frame.

As long as you have a strong frame, no one will be able to dent your confidence and your belief in yourself.

The key to developing unshakeable confidence is to realise the value you have(even in potential).

Charisma

If you are very competent and confident, you are almost there. What you need to learn next is how to deal with people. Charisma is mostly exclusive to the social domain.

Pay attention to individuals, find what makes them special. Specialised attention is very rare in the modern world.

Almost no one is doing that because everyone is so stuck up their own asses with their eyes on the phone that they don't pay attention to the world.

If there's one quality that defines seducers, it's that they're outer directed.

Most people are inner directed, they are looking inside themselves. They are full of insecurities.

So when you flip that around come in with confidence, tell them what you noticed about them will demonstrate that you care not only about yourself but for others around you.

Don't fake it though, people can tell when someone is fake or genuine.

Just genuinely be a curious person. There's nothing wrong with taking interest in something other than yourself.

Your competence, confidence, presence will play a big role in your charisma.

Your ability to care about people and show some warmth, and not just for the sake of it will also play a big role.

So, let your inner light shine and brighten the world around you.

You will be contagious.

Alright that's it for this week.

See Ya Next Week!