One Trait more Important than Confidence.

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When you are starting out in anything, you feel like an imposter for entering a domain which you are unfamiliar with. Unfamiliar causes doubt and doubt fractures your confidence. Knowing that there are many things that could go wrong is not helpful either.

I struggle with it from time to time as well like anyone else.

All of us know that confidence is an extremely important trait in life, and if we see someone who is confident we find it to be very attractive.

But even after knowing that, we struggle to be confident. Perhaps because every time we attempt to do so we are reminded of our failures. We keep getting reminded of why we are not good enough, why we should not be confident. It is as if the body keeps the score. It throws your current status right on your face.

Nature likes stability in its structure, it wants your status to be static(in one place), partly because it is easier that way. But nature is also dynamic, you see, nature also loves evolution and evolution requires change.

So how do we be confident when our neurochemistry keeps shoving our status in our faces?

Conviction!

This one trait is much more powerful than confidence because it is deeper. It comes from within, devoid of outside interference.

So have conviction. Have conviction in your goals, in yourself. Confidence can be broken because it is extrinsic, it comes and goes. It is not reliable. Now conviction, on the other hand, is reliable because it comes from within, it is intrinsic.

So it doesn't matter if you have confidence as long as you have conviction in what you envision. That is much more powerful and unshakable, and to be unshakable you must have a strong sense of self.

Remember this,

"Your trajectory is much more important than your current status"

Where you are right now is not as important as where you are going. Direction is more important than speed.

Gym is the perfect example for this.

When you start going to the gym your confidence is at an all time low.

You think - FUCK IM UGLY!

But you do realise that you could be healthier and look better. You do realise that there is a need for change.

So it doesn't matter how confident you are because you have conviction in what you would look like if you kept going to the gym consistently for months, 1 year, 2 years ...5 years.

And if you are patient enough to see the results of your work you will.

So folks!

Grow bigger balls, you could be way more than you are!

That's it for now.

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