ITS NO BIG DEAL.

In this edition of the journal I'm going to talk about a frame that is a must for anyone to thrive in life.

Without this frame of mind you are just destined to be miserable.

So I'll just dive straight into it.

Often in life we care too much about every little puny thing that happens to us.

It may not even make any difference to your life but you can't help but care about it.

Even though it only makes the situation worse.

Couldn't buy the dress you wanted because you couldn't afford it?

Tried everything but couldn't get the girl/guy you wanted?

Studied the whole semester and didn't get the grade that you strived for?

Know that it's no big deal.

It really is just that. It's a lack of perpective.

If you lack perspective then Zoom out and see if it really matters.

You'll realise that it doesn't.

Life goes on.

No matter how bad your life gets I want you to adopt the frame of

"It's No Big Deal"

The thing about worrying is that no matter how much you worry about something, it never actually helps with the situation.

This devil may care attitude can be very liberating. Especially for people that care a bit too much about everything that goes wrong with their life.

Whatever happens you'll be fine.

Know that everything can be taken away from you except your ability to choose the attitude that you have towards the circumstance.

This doesn't mean that you should turn into nihilist and a hopeless pessimist.

It means that no matter how bad the situation gets, you still have the ability to retain control over yourself.

It means that when shit hits the fan you can stay calm under pressure while everyone else is shitting their pants.

Your ability to compose yourself and hold your own in any situation is going to play a big part in how your life turns out.

Besides, when everything goes wrong, most people look towards the person that can retain composure and demonstrate a sort of inner strength that cannot be faked.

A man that can hold his own regardless how dire his circumstance is.

For it's in dire cicumstances that you truly find out who you really are.

Who are you when you are under pressure?

Who are you when everything goes wrong?

Who are you when you can't rely on anyone else to do your bidding?

Who are you when nothing you try works?

It is there that you will find your true strength.

This frame of mind of NO BIG DEAL has an underlying assumption though.

That you are capable of finding your own way out of the shit that you just landed yourself into.

This frame of mind is an extension of your inner strength.

Have belief in your own capability and you shall find your way out of everything.

Remember whatever happens...

ITS NO BIG DEAL.

Alright that's it bye.